Category Archives: Figure Stuff Out

Thoughts and observations about everything in the kitchen sink from the meaning of life to deep-fried sushi.

The bliss of doing the same thing over and over again

Some people say that happiness and fun is a function of spontaneity, to do the unpredicted.

But sometimes the opposite is true.  My wife spent the past two weeks on night shift while I continue to work regular day shift.  For two weeks our schedules overlap only between 6pm to 9pm on a lucky evening assuming she doesn’t return home late in the morning and need those few extra hour of sleep, and assuming that her service doesn’t require her attention earlier.

We spend those three hours after she wakes up doing the same thing every day.  I begin dinner on the stove, always shortly after returning home and before she wakes up.  We share a meal over a discussion, always about her night, my day, and everything in between.  After dinner, we put Netflix on the TV, always following The Mindy Project, laughing either with or at the show.  Her pager always rings during this time.  We say our goodbyes, and off she goes to work.

Rituals are an important part of life.  It’s what makes the high-achieving medical student through the arduous months of studying for the USMLE.  It is what brings you to brush your teeth every day long after mom and dad stopped urging you.  And for young busy professional couples that rarely spend time with one another, it’s what gives you the sense of bonding, signaling that this is our time together.

rit·u·al

noun
: a formal ceremony or series of acts that is always performed in the same way
: an act or series of acts done in a particular situation and in the same way each time

From Merriam-Webster Dictionary

The journey of a thousand miles

The best question you can ask your doctor sending you off for a bunch of tests – blood test, biopsy, x-ray – is this: how will it change what you do next?

In my work as a resident in radiology, one of the most important teaching focuses is Recommendation.  Although not commonly placed in a diagnostic report, the element of advising your referring doctor is implicit in your Impression of the radiologic examination.  It took a while for me to recognize what it means to fully embrace the role of a consulting physician:  Your colleagues are in doubt about their next step, and your job is to help them decide.

This has two implications:

(1) If the doctor ordering the test is 100% sure about what their next step, then your test is extraneous and therefore should be cancelled.

(2) If your test will not help the ordering doctor move closer to that next step at all, then your test is unhelpful and therefore should be cancelled.

In life, many of us have been “stuck” before too.  We have overarching, bird’s eye view of what we want to accomplish.  We know that these goals are divided into smaller goals, and smaller goals, and yet smaller goals.  But we are “stuck” because there is nothing that connect us from where we are to where we want to be.

As a radiologist, if you can help a doctor find the right next step, then you’ve done your job very well.

As a friend, if you can help someone make that connection between where she stands and where she wants to be, help someone make that single next step, however small, you will have been a great friend.

It begins with a single step.

Sometimes it’s okay to just come up with an answer

Humans are lazy.  We don’t like to think hard.  Proven. In this smart guy’s book.

But sometimes people take brilliant decision science theories too far.

It’s true that very few decisions in this world can be made as black-and-white, but most of us find making a decision using black-and-white terms much easier than by “weighing all the pros and cons.”  This phenomenon is well studied and is called heuristics or attribute substitution – we make decisions by replacing a hard question with an easier one (subconsciously).

Case in point:  Continue reading

Moving from past perfect to simple future

“What would have been” is easy to imagine.  It’s everything that we don’t have but we want, glazed with the syrup of optimism and a flare of fiction.

“What will be” is also easy to imagine.  It’s everything that hasn’t happened yet but will inevitably become pending our next actionable step, permeated with the grating texture of reality and a hint of truth.

The past perfect tense is exactly what it is – it’s perfect.  But “what would have been” is not quite past perfect.  It’s actually past conditional perfect tense. Conditional because we should have made that perfect decision in the past, but now it exists only in the imagination.

“What will be” is a simple future tense.  It looks ahead with a prediction of the near future.  It’s not quite “what will have been.”  The future perfect is a little far ahead, a little scant on realism.

Simple future isn’t necessarily better or worse than the past perfect conditional or the future perfect.  However, it is different, and we sometimes think too little about it.   So next time you found yourself looking back and thinking down a bifurcation towards a fictional future, it might be worth asking yourself “what’s the next actionable step, and am I willing to take it?”  It brings out the real you.

A Double Take on “What’s Your Take?”

“What’s your take?” is a question people sometimes ask when they want your opinions on a subject at hand.  Sometimes it also mean they are actually asking whether you agree with them.  If you were to agree, you get the opportunity to paraphrase their opinions.  If you were to disagree, the phrasing is such that you aren’t forced to start the response “No” as would be necessary with the question “do you agree?” (or risk not actually answering the simple yes-or-no question).

It’s an opportunity to create an engaging discussion without confrontation, a question worth pondering over for a few seconds before answering.

What’s better than better?

Throughout management training I was taught “More isn’t better; better is better.”

But there’s a problem with being better. To be better means to be compared against something.  Sometimes it’s competition against another person – do better than that rival.  Sometimes it’s competition against the self – do better than what you did yesterday.  Sometimes it’s competition against an ideal – as in “you can do better.” Being better implies optimizing on something, that somewhere above where we stand exists a higher level of achievement.  To be better means to take what we  already do and improve it based on the evaluatives of an existing rubric.

The problem with “better,” then, is that it only works when your customers – and here “customers” takes on a wide meaning: patients, buyers, parents, whatever – uses the same rubric that you do.

Being better is also very hard to do – to find the “Best” out of N choices, a computer makes N-1 comparisons, each comparison based on a rubric of many parameters. Humans take shortcuts by substituting this algorithm with a heuristic – a much easier question.  Most of the time, “who’s the best doctor/plumber/dogsitter” gets subconsciously substituted with “who comes up in your head first when I mention doctor/plumber/dogsitter?”

In other words, our customers very frequently end up thinking very differently about “better,”  and being better isn’t always better.

We end up with ourvery own type of better – how we uniquely contribute to the team, the organization, the customer.  How we communicate these qualities shapes how we differ from their choices. Different is how people remember us, walking away from that first meeting.  Different is what stops us from becoming a substitutable commodity.  Different is better than better.

Taking the second step

We all know getting started is tough; that’s not news.  Writing the introduction of your paper, the first day on a new job, starting a company, all tough tasks.  Taking the first step requires a certain amount of know-how.

Taking the second step, though, is an entirely different matter.  It requires trusting that the first step you took was in the right direction, and that you are ready to commit and take things further.  With the first step, you are just experimenting.

The second step requires courage. It is what transforms a footprint into a path.

Making Friends

Some people say we make friends because we learn vital life skills through them.

Some people say we make friends because talking to yourself is strange.

Some people say we make friends because no one wants to be alone in a time of need.

But at the end of the day, we do it because at some point, if you’re lucky, you get to spend the rest of your life with your best friend.

Breaking up routine

Continuously practicing is how we become better at something – at school, at work, at sports, at a hobby.  The converging destination at the end of countless hours of practice is usually routine.  The task becomes routine.  This is what we want.  Finding the toughest questions on the problem set routine and banal is how you realize you are ready for the calculus final.  Having managed myriad complications and knows what to do for each combination of things-gone-wrong is how you would want to pick a surgeon.  Routine is good.  Routine means no surprises.  Routine is how you know you’ve gotten there, surpassing the threshold of difficulty and now looking down at the remains of the world.

Surprises can sometimes be bad, but so can routines.  As we learn to become experts we take on the thought patterns of other experts.  Experts make the mistakes of experts, and, surrounded by other experts, become blind to these cognitive errors.  Sometimes it takes a fresh pair of eyes to see just how far off center we have gone.

Slow down and take a breather.  Then look around and see if things look a little different.   Of course things are not actually different.   Your tasks remain the same, the calculus problem is still there, and the surgery will not perform itself.  No, what was different in those 10 seconds was you.  Deliberately doing something a little differently, even something immaterial,  breaks up the routine and monotony, bringing back new perspective to the old problem.

When all is said and done

You leave the world with the relationships you’ve formed over the course of your time.  This is why people like having a drink with friends, watching movie with someone, or eat lunch with an associate, even though the acts of drinking, watching, and dining do not technically require an accomplice.

This is also why vowing to spend the rest of our lives together makes us so happy.

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